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Saturday, April 01, 2006
April 1. Well, today is as good as any, I suppose, to start a blog. The date itself doesn't mean anything (although a lot of fools are usually outed today), but 01.04.06 does look good, almost auspicious, don't you think? And I do feel good today, after spending the weekend with visiting family members who I had not seen for a while, playing catch up with them, to find out who's doing what (and with whom)and getting to know the latest addition to the clan, either by or through marriage. Well, you know, kalau dah lama tak jumpa tu, macam-macam ceritalah yang dapat dikongsi. Seronok jugak.
Family reunions are always a happy occasion for me, until family members start asking questions and poking their noses into business that's not theirs. Well, you know, the one million-dollar question: "When are you settling down?" The question is never asked by close family members. It's always those who don't really know you that ask a lot of questions -- your second cousins la, anak dua pupu la, pakcik sepupu la.... And if you're a guy past your thirties, they're going to wonder: "Kenape ek dia ni tak nak kawin-kawin lagi? Umor dah lanjut, kereta ada, keje OK, rumah OK, tapi wife takde..." And those with active and fertile imagination would speculate (although in a hush-hush, private kind of way): "Hmm, maybe he has been hurt before; or maybe he's got some secret girl-friend stashed away somewhere; maybe he's just not interested; or maybe he's (oh, God forbid, don't say it) gay...?"
Family reunions are always a happy occasion for me, until family members start asking questions and poking their noses into business that's not theirs. Well, you know, the one million-dollar question: "When are you settling down?" The question is never asked by close family members. It's always those who don't really know you that ask a lot of questions -- your second cousins la, anak dua pupu la, pakcik sepupu la.... And if you're a guy past your thirties, they're going to wonder: "Kenape ek dia ni tak nak kawin-kawin lagi? Umor dah lanjut, kereta ada, keje OK, rumah OK, tapi wife takde..." And those with active and fertile imagination would speculate (although in a hush-hush, private kind of way): "Hmm, maybe he has been hurt before; or maybe he's got some secret girl-friend stashed away somewhere; maybe he's just not interested; or maybe he's (oh, God forbid, don't say it) gay...?"
It is rather amusing to see sometimes they make their own conclusion: "Oh, he is so busy with work he doesn't have the time to date! Let's match-make him!" Years ago, they would always have someone's anak dara who'd be perfect for you. After you've reached a certain age, they'd think of some young janda beranak satu to be your match...
But I suppose that's how it goes. Family members, no matter how far removed they are, would always have their concern, especially in matters relating to the survival of the clan. It's unthinkable to them that you can be happy and extremely contented on your own. That you can find your bliss and kebahagiaan in so many other ways and places...
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